Court Judgments
The following are from court judgments. There are so many more. I will add them as I go through my book draft and when time allows.
1. From a 4 day trial judgment. The judge wrote:
‘I am quite satisfied that the mother had no intention of co-parenting as any reasonable person would understand that term.’
The court judged Natalie had:
• gaslighted and undermined me
• attempted fraud against me
• told false and malicious allegations about me
• had committed parental alienation or attempted parental alienation
I was not found to have done anything wrong.
2. From a court judgment about my abuser trying to stop our child seeing me:
“whilst the mother may have enjoyed the father’s financial discomfort, I do not find that this was her main aim. I reach the same conclusion in respect of the allegation of emotional abuse. I find the emotional impact of the mother’s behaviour on the father is made out but this was incidental to her campaign to make contact as difficult as possible, if not to end it altogether.”
The court judged she was trying to alienate our child and I.
3. The Royal Courts of Justice:
“The Judge was entirely right to order a psychiatric assessment of the mother. Her severe anxiety and its effect on <baby name> and her contact with her father would be a concern to any court.”
Long before we met, my abuser was diagnosed with bipolar, anxiety and depression. A medical report shows she had self-harm and suicidal thoughts and told her GP she thought she had a personality disorder, all before we met.
Things seemed normal until the birth, after which her personality changed overnight.
Court documents show before getting pregnant her GP asked her to inform me of her problems. A mental health team even visited her in the maternity ward but I was not told. Clearly medical staff knew she had serious problems that could have affected me, her and our child but I only learned of her conditions through her abusive behaviour and subsequent reports for family court. The UK system failed, as it fails so many.
4. My child was abducted in 2019. This excerpt is from a court judgment of a 4 day trial which covered all sorts of abuse my child and I experienced:
“On 17th May 2019 the mother told the contact centre there would be no more visits. She told the contact centre she was relocating. She gave no details to the father. He was not told that she was moving and therefore where she was moving to. On 20th May 2019 she moved to <place name (3 hours away)>. She did not disclose this address to the father. It was still unknown to him when he made his statement dated 17th June. On 11th June 2019 there was the adjourned DRA. The father’s statement was dated 17th June. There was no statement from the mother. She filed none until 18th August.”
In our child’s first year my abuser denied me contact so I missed our child’s first Christmas and birthday. I did not even have contact by video call and she gave me no photographs.
I did not see our child for 4 and a half months and, later, 2 other periods of a month each. Much of the rest was in a contact centre.
There was never any substantiated reason for any of it. My abuser broke court orders and made false allegations, later found to be false and malicious in court.