Natalie Abducting Our Child

Natalie did everything possible to alienate our child

This excerpt is from a court judgment of a 4 day trial which covered all sorts of abuse my child and I experienced:

“On 17th May 2019 the mother told the contact centre there would be no more visits. She told the contact centre she was relocating. She gave no details to the father. He was not told that she was moving and therefore where she was moving to. On 20th May 2019 she moved to <place name (3 hours away)>. She did not disclose this address to the father. It was still unknown to him when he made his statement dated 17th June. On 11th June 2019 there was the adjourned DRA. The father’s statement was dated 17th June. There was no statement from the mother. She filed none until 18th August.”

After my abuser abducted our child 3 hours away she sold her car and gave up her driving licence in a bid to make me do 6 hour round trips to see our child.

She claimed she gave up her licence on medical grounds but 2 years later, at trial, the court judgment says (in the quote, I am the respondent):

“The mother alleges that she gave up her driving licence as a result of panic attacks caused by the respondent’s controlling and coercive behaviour at handovers. She provides no medical evidence. The respondent alleges that the reason she had for giving up her driving licence was part of her campaign to stop contact which included broken court orders, false allegations, relocation and giving up her car. In his view, it was a cynical next step to make him do all the travelling. I remind myself that the respondent’s allegations are very serious but considering the history of contact and my assessment of each of the witnesses, I agree with the respondent.”

The judge also described my abuser relocating 3 hours away as her having “done a runner”.

At another court hearing, when court considered giving our daughter and I more contact time due to my travel burden, my abuser quickly offered to get her driving licence back and do some of the travel - a miraculous recovery.

After abducting our child, she even had the cheek to ask for more maintenance, which I paid because I was focussed on our child and put that ahead of her abusing me.

For 4 years I did those trips with little help. For some of the time I had to pay for a hire car for her to do some of the travel but for most of the time I did most or all of the travel.

My abuser did a paltry amount of travel but after 4 years told me she had been taking £100 a month of the maintenance I paid for my child and using it for her own petrol bill.

So, although I disagreed with her moving, she abducted our child by relocating without court permission, asked for more maintenance, gave up her car and driving licence and took £100 a month of money meant for our chid.

She was deceptively making me pay both our transport costs. All of that money should have gone on our child, not on years of petrol bills. As a judge put it 2 years later :

"whilst the mother may have enjoyed the father’s financial discomfort, I do not find that this was her main aim. I reach the same conclusion in respect of the allegation of emotional abuse. I find the emotional impact of the mother’s behaviour on the father is made out but this was incidental to her campaign to make contact as difficult as possible, if not to end it altogether."

False allegations, abduction, financial harm, Legal Aid abuse. Well trodden paths that spread like a pandemic among those wanting to commit #ParentalAlienation and there is little the UK will do to protect a targeted parent and child. Abusers know this and exploit it to the hilt.

Back to 2019: due to prior breaking of contact by my abuser, including them breaking court orders, I did not see my child for around 6 months of her first year. Much of that contact was mainly in contact centres for no valid reason.

I did not see my child on her first Christmas and on her first birthday I was due to have her overnight that weekend. However, the mother accused me of making our baby's bum bleed and stopped the contact without court permission. Shortly after she took our child to a paediatrician and said she thought I had torn her vagina. I can't describe the affect of that.

Court found she wanted to alienate our child and had told false and malicious allegations about me. Yet nothing was done so the system enabled more abuse. This was only the start of me seeing how the UK #FamilyCourt enables harm to children and good parents.

Subsequently it transpired my abuser had been hiding all manner of historic mental health issues. Authorities knew of them but did not inform me. I only learned of them by being abused.

Anyone parenting with someone that ill needs to be told as it is a risk to them and the child. The UK's system needs to change in this area as it puts people at risk. It has an enormous number of child 'experts' but they do not produce outcomes the country can be proud of.

My story is terrible but so many have it even worse.

Nothing is done and it is a fantastic business for the 'professionals' involved. No wonder things don't change for targeted parents and kids. They are placed in a horror story.

Shame on the UK. As we see almost daily the country's systems fail children. It is a wonderful country with wonderful people but it has inept and corrupt institutions and leaders.