How You Can Help

If you would like to…

Some people will judge me harshly, some will be supportive. If you have some sympathy here is a list of ways to help with some context below.

I don’t know who is reading this, a billionaire or a baker. It doesn’t matter, the UK family court can wreck all.

If anyone can help with any of the points below please let me know. If you are a solicitor and can help with even just one of them would be great.

I can be contacted by DM on X or email info@fairparenting.co.uk and feel free to get in touch if you can help practically or just want to offer words of support or if you need some words of support yourself. Many people have contacted me in the past via my podcast and we have helped each other down the rocky roads of family court.

For those new to the case a reasonable summary can be read on these pages:

1. https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/summary-4ee

2. https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/why-i-am-so-petrified-of-natalie

1. Legal Help - Legal Aid

I have no assets left for the abuser to take. The only plus point is I should be eligible for Legal Aid now. If you think you can help to get that please get in touch.

2. Legal Help - Human Rights (ECHR Article 6 and sanctions)

There have been various abuses of process and over 12 breaches of ECHR Article 6. If you think you can help with the issues on the human rights page please let me know:

https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/human-rights-violations

That is the main thing as the breaches have happened over 12 times. There can’t be many cases where someone has been actively prevented from legal advice and been forced to attend 12 hearings while saying they are not able to self-represent. Please see the above link for full details.

Also, perhaps a smaller side issue, I am told there have been a large number of ex parte orders that I should have been served but I have not been. Natalie’s solicitor refuses to send them.

3. Legal Help - Human Rights (House Confiscation)

My house was taken in a civil case and there seems to be no case law to back it up. What has happened to my family’s house harms unnconneted third parties, including the child and is disproportionate given there is a return agreement, a judgment I was abused for years and I have engaged fully with the court when many parents disappear.

Natalie wanted money ($10k-$20k) which is much lower than the house equity. It makes no sense to harm our child and my family by selling my house.

I offered her the better and quicker alternative of cash over a few months, with me working to pay her rather than taking a year or more to evict the tenant and sell the house. She chose the latter as obviously that harms me and our child most. Any parent wanting a quick resolution for parenting would have chose the case offer - it shows Natalie’s priorities are harming me first, parenting a distant second.

Natalie has no historical link to the house. I wholly paid the mortgage and she only ever visited it once just to see where our child was staying when with me. Natalie herself has never stayed there.

The house loss harms me but more my family, daughter and other beneficiaries in my will. If you think you can help with an emergency appeal to get the house back please let me know.

Natalie’s solicitor also criminally broke into the house to change the locks without court permission. He is also now threatening the tenant with costs if the tenant does not vacate - this breaks tenancy law and is threatening behaviour. Due to the criminal break-in and written threats the tenant is understandably frightened. I hope someone can help me with an emergency injunction to stop them thretening the tenant.

As I have no assets left in the UK I should be able to get Legal Aid now.

4. Legal Help - Passport

Natalie has cancelled my passport via the court. If you think you can help with an emergency appeal to get it reinstated please let me know. We are very settled and happy where we are but everyone should have a passport in case of disasters or, in my case, if Natalie’s vigilante attacks us.

5. Legal Help - Prison Sentence

Natalie got me a 1 year prison sentence if I return to the UK. It’s in harsh category B prison. Even though she abducted our child and abused me for years I never asked for court to sanction her. I put our child first. Natalie got me the prison sentence despite having a mediated return agreement she walked away from. Her aim is my destruction first, parenting her child second. It is frightening.

6. Legal Help - Asking Court To Write An Order Based On What Parents Agreed In Mediation

Parents agreed return and Natalie walked away. She then agreed 2 more times only to walk away. I am told courts can impose an order based on what was previously agrees. I think it is called a Xydhias agreement. So, the court literally has had the power to resolve the case for over a year. The case is reserved to the same judge so it may be the judge is causing the case to last longer than needed. If you can help with asking the court to write an order to resolve please let me know.

7. Legal Help - Frozen Bank Accounts

Natalie has left her child and I without my bank accounts for over a year. She did not know if we had food or shelter but only wants us deprived into return.

If there was a medical emergency Natalie hasn’t even bothered to ask if we have a credit card, cover or funds. She is simply trying to starve us into returning - for a year. This is not the behavious of a concerned parent. It is reckless, particularly as she mediated a return agreement and could have been parenting in the UK for a year.

After a year it is clear that won’t work but she is only aggressive which has always been the case for 6 years. Return won’t change anything without a strong court order to stop a repeat of 2018-2023. Sanctions and frozen assets only make me more fearful to return, the exact opposite of theire design. Given they are fruitless after a year, if you think you can help applying to remove them please let me know.

8. Legal Help - ECHR Case

There may also be a case to take to the ECHR. A few years ago the ECHR fined a country in a family court case and told member states to take alienation cases seriously. The court said the mother was trying to alienate our child but they did nothing to protect me and my child from it.

Also, clearly Article 6 has been broken by the UK in over 12 hearings as shown here:

https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/human-rights-violations

If you are able to do pro-bono, fixed fee or, if there are items you think may be due compensation I am happy to give the lion share to you. My family may also be able to help and I have some money.

9. Legal Help - Judicial Errors

There have been many judicial errors. Please see this post for details:

https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/judicial-errors

10. Legal Help - Judicial Review

It may be worth asking for a judicial of the case as the court has made a complete hash of it and a good remedy was available based on what parents agreed. What the court is doing is clearly counterproductive and not in the best interests of the child (jailing parent, losing the family’s house, traumatising the child who is now settled). Clearly any change in arrangements should be gradual and managed with the child in mind but court and mother want a horrendous outcome that will harm the child. I am an easygoing person who would would be advised by any legal expert who wants to help.

There have been many judicial errors. Please see this post for details:

https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/judicial-errors

11. Legal Help - Compensation

I don’t know if a legal professional can see points to claim compensation in this case. That is not my motivation so I would be happy for you to have the lionshare if you can help.

12. Media

A book and documentary are in the works. I have also had tentative discussions about a TV drama. I am happy to appear on TV and radio to discuss my case. Actually, I am a private person but I have had to realise that the system is literally killing people and needs to be change. If my story helps in some way I need to tell it. I often cite Ray Dalio on my podcast. He is the private billionaire who has stepped forware for a few years to impart some information after which he says he will go back to privacy. I am a fan of Ray and I agree with his approach.

If anyone else in the worlds of books, TV or film want to get in touch let me know. I am fairly amateurish at it so if someone wants to do the agent side of things let me know.

13. Financial

1. I have a job but, now my abuser has stolen mine and my child’s house, everything I worked for in the UK is gone. I am needing to rebuild that in the next 9 years.
   
   So, if you run a promising tech startup offering equity let me know. I can work like a dog 24/7 to keep me and my child free of abuse.
   

   Above all I’d like the other party to stop attacking, prioritise our child return to our mediated agreement but that seems a remote possibility. I believe her priority is my being jailed and homeless, not parenting. UK court judgement said

   ‘I find the emotional impact of the mother’s behaviour on the father is made out but this was incidental to her campaign to make contact as difficult as possible, if not to end it altogether.’

   but sadly they did nothing to stop it.

   Thanks and God bless all who are facing persecution in the UK and elsewhere.

Context

Clearly I’ve been abused. I didn’t retaliate once and no wrongdoing was found. After 5 years I sought safety and safeguards. Parents mediated a return agreement then Natalie went on the rampage. I just wish for peace and safety.

If she was abusive in the UK and is now how can it be safe to return without a protective court order? Unlike many of these cases, which usually has a parent who doesn’t return to the UK and who alienated the child from the other parent, I wish for both parents to be heavily involved and we had mediated a return.

It is hard for me to see a safe way ever go back to the UK. My passport has been cancelled by the court, my house taken, my bank accounts frozen and jail awaits on landing as does separation from my child - something that would clearly traumatise her, as would my jailing and homelessness, but mother and court don’t care - not exactly child focused.

The mother seems hellbent on a court case overseas. It may be I am abroad for the next 10 years of my daughter’s childhood and maybe for the rest of my life. It’s fine as we love it here but it is also sad as parents had made and agreement with safeguards. Natalie prioritising aggression over peace only alarms me more. She doesn’t seem too interested in even seeing her child, destroying me seems top of her list.