Human Rights Violations
The UK regularly violates Human Rights when it wants to. Its family court does this to many. I have now been given a PRISON SENTENCE AND HAD MY HOUSE TAKEN BY A JUDGE, WITHOUT A JURY TRIAL.
2018-2023
Court judged Natalie abused me for years but did nothing. Inexplicably, after the trial she then got ongoing Legal Aid despite court and police finding no wrongdoing by me.
2022-2024
These 2 pages in the links below show Natalie weaponised Legal Aid to destroy a good parent of my life savings, health and wellbeing.
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/why-i-am-so-petrified-of-natalie
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/legal-aid-abuse
Legal Aid is primarily for the innocent and vulnerable not to make the innocent vulnerable. You cannot defend yourself against an abuser with seemingly unlimited state-funded Legal Aid as the state will fund them long past the point you can afford to defend yourself.
2023
After 5 years abuse and with concerns for our child I did not return to the UK but, at my request, we mediated a return with safeguards. Natalie then walked away.
This is covered more in-depth in the Summary post:
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/summary-4ee
I was forced to attend over 12 High Court hearings alone despite me citing mental health reasons why I should not (5 years of trauma) and the court actively blocking me from legal help by leaving my child and I unbanked. It has been hugely traumatic and broke ECHR Article 6 (right to a fair trial, which also covers hearings).
Imagine a serious criminal trial for murder, manslaughter, rape or G.B.H. how many hearings would the accused have to go to? Not many and they would be assigned a lawyer. I got none of this.
By walking away from our mediated agreement Natalie flushed thousands of pounds of Legal Aid and court time down the drain. The judge lets the case run on Natalie’s whims.
Rather than sign the agreement we spent weeks mediating, Natalie used more Legal Aid to get me a jail sentence. Is that what Legal Aid is for? We had mediated a peaceful agreement with safeguards but Natalie, as throughout the 6 years, just wants to harm me but cannot say why. The answer is in her medical notes:
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/psychologist
https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/her-psychiatrist-report
not in any behaviour anyone has found in me.
The same judge has had most of the hearings. They have repeatedly stopped me getting legal representation and:
i) said I was a ‘scaredy-cat’ for not returning, despite seeing the judgements I have been abused. She is belittling someone who has been psychologically abused for years.
ii) said a mum winning custody was ‘pretty bog standard’. Perhaps the court should advertise this view so dads didn’t waste years and their wellbeing and savings hoping for fairness.
iii) could have resolved the case since a year ago by writing an order based on mediated agreement. Even the judge says hearings go round in circles but continues.
Almost all those Legal Aid funded hearings were unnecessary. Even the judge said we were going round in circles. She suggested more mediation, as did I, but Natalie refused. It was a gravy train for solicitors. Most hearings just set another return date, I said I could not return without a protective agreement due to abuse worries and round we went again. This was wasteful of taxpayers money and blocking me from legal advice was a human rights violation.
The court has now taken my family’s house to give funds to Natalie for a legal case overseas. There was no relevant case law for this and it is a civil case, not criminal, yet me and my family have been treated worse than criminals. I offered Natalie the money she wanted but she decided to take my house and the court let her.
Please bear in mind this is a civil (not criminal case) and I have been given a PRISON SENTENCE AND HAD MY HOUSE TAKEN BY A JUDGE, WITHOUT A JURY TRIAL.
The backdrop is we have a mediated return agreement. Natalie just wants to destroy me instead. Court should not be enabling it.
Note: A few years ago a European Court of Human Rights (ECHR) ruling warned member states to take cases of alienating parents seriously and handle them in a timely way. Routinely the UK does not. Despite a court judging Natalie wanted to alienate our child it did nothing to protect so things got worse.
Also routinely the UK enables Legal Aid to be given to abusers on the basis of false allegations and it is used to ruin good people who have done nothing wrong.
I just wanted peace and safety from abuse. My story could happen to most parents in the UK, you just need another parent to target you and play the family court playbook to unlock heaps of Legal Aid and act with impunity.